Don't Allow the Past to Keep you from Experiencing a Joyous Present

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by Denise Hart

Wouldn't it be terrific if all the stuff from the past that we don't want in the present, would just stay in the past where it belongs? If only life were so simple.

I commonly receive requests for support and coaching to deal with things like:

1. Controlling my thoughts, fears and focusing on not putting the wrong messages in the universe so I can move forward in my business, relationships and education."
2. Fear of not being enough...perpetual fear of abandonment and still not knowing what I want to be when I grow up or who I really am.
3. thinking negatively, in some instances or another being my own hindrance. Being able to put forth what I need and want into the universe and trusting that I'll get what I ask for and not dwell and worry on it. Maintaining my sense of hopefulness.
4. Finding my purpose, having a successful, romantic relationship, not worrying, trusting God.
5. Guilt over decisions in the past, who I really am or where I belong.

Heavy topics, but, don't fret, there's always hope. We can absolutely empower ourselves to move beyond the past.

When we assess ourselves, naturally we examine the past. We cast an introspective eye on what we did on all of the yesterdays that came before today. The value of assessment is to determine what we want to shift so we can get into alignment with a more easeful process to achieve our goals. The challenge with assessment is to not get stuck there, in the past.

The behavior we identify during our assessment is something that we have done, however, we now get to decide what we will do differently. In my experience, accessing the commitment and focus to doing what we need to do differently today, is typically a more real and relevant problem than the problem we identify when do our assessment. One of the reasons we find ourselves lacking in commitment and focus is because we often create a relationship and a comfort zone with our past choices even when they are choices that undermine where we want to go and what we want to do.

In each of the response I can see the need to create a shift from feeling immobilized to becoming mobilized. No one can mobilize us but ourselves. No matter what it takes, we must do the work.

I don't know all of these women well, but I feel certain that each of them is smart, thoughtful and they care about themselves and the outcomes they desire in their life. I have found over the years that this quote is a profound truth that holds the key to helping each of us resolve almost any issue we encounter:

"Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind."

It may come from the Bible, but that's not the point, this statement remains a very powerful truth.

I'm going to suggest a simple 3 step mindset reset you practice for the next 30 days. I'm sure you've heard that it takes between 21-30 days to establish a new habit. You're going to be amazed at how simple shifts can produce profound results.

STEP 1 - here are three affirmations that you will meditate on and recognize as truth each morning.

I am diligent. I move through my process with persistent effort. I persevere. I am steadfast despite difficulty or delay in achieving my goals. I am vigilant. I keep a careful watch on my thoughts and actions. I nurture myself with love.

STEP 2 - is to articulate what you want and think and write down thoughts that support this. In this step pull out your journal and every day for five to ten minutes write down those thoughts that reflect what you want. Say nothing about what you feel is in your way. Here are some prompts to get you started:
  1. Focus on what you need to do to move forward in your business, relationships and education. 
  2. Explore what would make you happy to commit to over the long haul. 
  3. What could you say that would replace any negative thoughts and feelings you habitually think or feel?
  4. Explore what it would feel like to trust God or your higher power. 
  5. Ask trusted friends to share how they see you making a difference in the world.

STEP 3 - is to every day, remind yourself to trust that you are capable of moving to your next level. "I trust that I am capable of moving to my next level."

It is possible to have more of what you want in your life. Through adopting a mindset ever focused on diligence, perseverance and vigilance we can achieve anything we desire.


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Denise J. Hart, The Motivated Mindset Coach, is committed to helping women design their “Don’t Quit” attitude and KICK fear to the curb. She’s a member of world renowned speaker and transformation coach, Lisa Nichols’ Global Leaders team and author of the forthcoming book, “Your Daily Mindset Mojo – 365 power thoughts to help you change your mindset and transform your life!” Get your free daily mindset mojo inspiration at  

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