What White Folks and Non-Black POC Need to Understand About Systemic Racism
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April 30, 2015
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Mom of the Year?: The Real Reasons Why People Are Sharing the Baltimore Mom Video
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by Altheria Gaston
Over the last couple of days, #BaltimoreMom and similar hashtags have been trending heavily on Twitter because of a viral forty-eight second video of a Black woman in a yellow top striking a young Black male. The woman in the video is Toya Graham and the male is her sixteen-year-old son. The video shows Ms. Graham striking and verbally chastising her son for his involvement in the Baltimore riots that erupted after the suspicious death of Freddie Gray, a 25-year-old Black man who sustained a grave spinal cord injury while in police custody.
Mom of the Year?: The Real Reasons Why People Are Sharing the Baltimore Mom Video
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April 30, 2015
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5 Ways Thinking Like a Man in the Workplace Can Boost Your Career
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by Dalila Thomas
By now, we’re all familiar with the phrase “think like a man” when it comes to relationships, but what about applying this logic to your career? There are many things that women do, or don’t do, that hinders their ability to move ahead in the workplace. By tweaking our attitudes and getting smart about how we play the game, we can set ourselves up for success and progress in our professional lives.
By now, we’re all familiar with the phrase “think like a man” when it comes to relationships, but what about applying this logic to your career? There are many things that women do, or don’t do, that hinders their ability to move ahead in the workplace. By tweaking our attitudes and getting smart about how we play the game, we can set ourselves up for success and progress in our professional lives.
5 Ways Thinking Like a Man in the Workplace Can Boost Your Career
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April 30, 2015
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Why Some of Us Will Not, Cannot, and Do Not Post about Baltimore
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by Kesiena Boom
The events unfolding in Baltimore at the moment are depressingly familiar: Police officer uses excessive force and kills an unarmed Black person. Black people take peacefully to the streets to express their despair and desire for change. The police escalate the situation. Violence erupts. The media and individuals online express their disgust at the Black protesters. Black people take to social media to report the actual facts as they happen and their personal responses and pain. Rinse and repeat. Another dead body. Another wave of misinformed and racially biased coverage. Another swell of grief. It never ends.
Why Some of Us Will Not, Cannot, and Do Not Post about Baltimore
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April 29, 2015
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Police Body Cameras Will Not End Systemic Racism and Police Brutality
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by Leah C.K. Lewis
Remember the old adage, “A picture is worth a thousand words?” There was a time when the primary purpose of a camera was to record the highlights and the fun and frivolous moments of our lives. Now, the camera is a lawful and vital instrument of social justice and an implement of our (in)justice system.
Remember the old adage, “A picture is worth a thousand words?” There was a time when the primary purpose of a camera was to record the highlights and the fun and frivolous moments of our lives. Now, the camera is a lawful and vital instrument of social justice and an implement of our (in)justice system.
Police Body Cameras Will Not End Systemic Racism and Police Brutality
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April 29, 2015
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Why Do Black Women's Lives Only Matter When We're Entertaining on TV?
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The success of television shows such as Empire—starring Taraji P. Henson as the inimitable, indomitable, and downright inspirational Cookie Lyon—and How To Get Away With Murder—headed by Viola Davis in all her stony, complex wonder—has demonstrated irrefutably that the public is interested in tuning into stories driven by and exploring the many-layered lives of Black women. The ratings for the former did the impossible and grew without fail every week of its first season, an accomplishment that would be notable even if it didn’t star a Black woman and feature an almost entirely Black cast.
Why Do Black Women's Lives Only Matter When We're Entertaining on TV?
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April 29, 2015
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Don't Tell Me My Experience Isn't "Relatable"
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by Bim Adewunmi, Buzzfeed
For a woman who has made a career out of her love for culture – and consumes so much of it – it would not make sense for me to continue to watch and read and listen to things that I do not relate to. I have been a middle-aged, straight white father and radio psychiatrist, a mid-twenties flaxen-haired masseuse (and full-time kook). I’ve been an unexpected star quarterback from a small, football-mad Texas town. With no qualms. It took no extra labour; it cost me no additional part of my humanity to imagine myself in those shoes, even as they were as far from my experience as it was possible to get: Frasier Crane, Phoebe Buffay, Matt Saracen. The me that I see in all of these characters is not immediately apparent, but it doesn’t take much for me to recognise in them something that already lives in me. You could argue that some of us, more than others, are forced to find that thing.
Don't Tell Me My Experience Isn't "Relatable"
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April 28, 2015
Rating: 5
She's Got a Big Ego?: Reflections on Black Women and Self-Confidence
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by Bee Quammie
We weren’t meant to be here.
When I say “we,” I mean Black women. When I say “here,” I mean existing in a place of self-confidence. If America’s greatest fear is an educated Black man, the world’s greatest source of confusion can be found in a self-assured Black woman.
She's Got a Big Ego?: Reflections on Black Women and Self-Confidence
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April 28, 2015
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Why I Chose to Fight Cancer by Removing My Ovaries
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by Brenda's Child
As I watched Angelina Jolie make the news once again for her “heroic” decision to undergo another surgery to eliminate her chance of developing ovarian cancer, I thought, “This is a big deal, but she’s not the only hero.” What I mean by this is that people do what Angelina has done all the time, but no one pays attention because they aren’t a movie star, sex symbol, or poster woman for a thousand humanitarian organizations.
Why I Chose to Fight Cancer by Removing My Ovaries
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April 28, 2015
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Who We March For: How the Movement is Failing Black Women
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by Aisha Davis
In March 2012, Rekia Boyd was killed by off-duty Chicago police officer Dante Servin. Officer Servin thought that Rekia and her friends were being too loud while they walked to a store. After exchanging words, Officer Servin shot over his shoulder, hitting Rekia in the back of the head.
In March 2012, Rekia Boyd was killed by off-duty Chicago police officer Dante Servin. Officer Servin thought that Rekia and her friends were being too loud while they walked to a store. After exchanging words, Officer Servin shot over his shoulder, hitting Rekia in the back of the head.
Who We March For: How the Movement is Failing Black Women
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April 27, 2015
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White People Should Embrace History Rather than Run Away from It
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by Anna Gibson
Ben Affleck has been under fire, for actions he took in response to finding out one of his ancestors owned slaves on the PBS show about genealogy and family history, Finding Your Roots, hosted by Henry Louis Gates. Upon learning that one of his ancestors was a slave master, he asked the network to remove this segment from the aired version of the show, and they complied. The email in which he made this request was released on WikiLeaks, and many people are furious that he would do something like this.
Ben Affleck has been under fire, for actions he took in response to finding out one of his ancestors owned slaves on the PBS show about genealogy and family history, Finding Your Roots, hosted by Henry Louis Gates. Upon learning that one of his ancestors was a slave master, he asked the network to remove this segment from the aired version of the show, and they complied. The email in which he made this request was released on WikiLeaks, and many people are furious that he would do something like this.
White People Should Embrace History Rather than Run Away from It
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April 27, 2015
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SNAP "Challenges" Only Reveal Privileged Assumptions about Low-Income Families
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by Inda Lauryn
SNAP “challenges” are nothing new. Every once in a while, we get a celebrity and/or politician who decides to rise up to the challenge and either prove or disprove how difficult it is to live on government assistance. Not surprisingly, Gwyneth Paltrow recently got press when she underwent the “challenge” for an entire week and tweeted a picture of her $29 food budget.
SNAP “challenges” are nothing new. Every once in a while, we get a celebrity and/or politician who decides to rise up to the challenge and either prove or disprove how difficult it is to live on government assistance. Not surprisingly, Gwyneth Paltrow recently got press when she underwent the “challenge” for an entire week and tweeted a picture of her $29 food budget.
SNAP "Challenges" Only Reveal Privileged Assumptions about Low-Income Families
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April 26, 2015
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The Unfulfilled Promise: Black Women Still Need Better Healthcare Options
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by Jamille Fields
April is National Minority Health month, and it is far past time for our elected officials to implement policies to improve Black women’s health. As a Black woman, I want to see something done to eliminate the health inequities that plague us, our families, and our community. As a public health professional, I recognize that expanded health care access can go a long way toward improving individuals’ health. As a lawyer, I know that politicians, currently, have in their hand an opportunity to make such a change. On March 23, 2010, President Obama signed the Affordable Care Act (ACA) into law as an attempt to expand healthcare access to the nearly 50 million Americans who were uninsured at the time. Five years later, some states are still playing political football with implementing the law.
The Unfulfilled Promise: Black Women Still Need Better Healthcare Options
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April 25, 2015
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7-Year-Old Wins $16K for Her Original Comic Book About Afro-Puffed Superhero
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by Shonette Reed
Beating out more than 530 entries, 7-year-old Natalie McGriff, co-creator of The Adventures of Moxie Girl comic book, walked away with over $16,000 at One Spark, a crowdfunding festival in Jacksonville, FL.
7-Year-Old Wins $16K for Her Original Comic Book About Afro-Puffed Superhero
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April 25, 2015
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Despite our Fear: How We Can Raise Confident, Brilliant Black Children in America
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by Akilah S. Richards
All parents need to be visionaries when it comes to our children’s futures. Parenting carries no illusion of certainty, so we all get the same mini “playbook” with instructions to pay attention, prioritize love, set a good example, be compassionate, and hope this shit works out.
All parents need to be visionaries when it comes to our children’s futures. Parenting carries no illusion of certainty, so we all get the same mini “playbook” with instructions to pay attention, prioritize love, set a good example, be compassionate, and hope this shit works out.
Despite our Fear: How We Can Raise Confident, Brilliant Black Children in America
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April 24, 2015
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Christianity Ain't For Everybody: Resources to Navigate Being Black and Non-Christian
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by Nyah Levone Molineaux
One of the amazing aspects about being Black is the diversity of our community—including the diversity of religious beliefs and spiritual practices. This was highlighted in C. Imani Williams' essay, “Beyond Christianity: Yes, Non-Religious Blacks Find Spiritual Connection Too,” published on For Harriet earlier this year. The article is a brilliant introduction into the religious diversity of the Black community—in particular, those such as myself who are do not follow or participate in the Abrahamic faiths (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam).
One of the amazing aspects about being Black is the diversity of our community—including the diversity of religious beliefs and spiritual practices. This was highlighted in C. Imani Williams' essay, “Beyond Christianity: Yes, Non-Religious Blacks Find Spiritual Connection Too,” published on For Harriet earlier this year. The article is a brilliant introduction into the religious diversity of the Black community—in particular, those such as myself who are do not follow or participate in the Abrahamic faiths (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam).
Christianity Ain't For Everybody: Resources to Navigate Being Black and Non-Christian
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April 23, 2015
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Loretta Lynch Confirmed as First Black Woman U.S. Attorney General
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After waiting more than five months, the senate confirmed Loretta Lynch as attorney general on Thursday. In a 56-43 vote, Lynch won the position following an unprecedented delay.
Lynch, 55, will become the first Black woman to head the Justice Department when she takes the reigns from Eric Holder who announced his intent to resign last September. She will move into the Obama Administration from her post as U.S. attorney in Brooklyn.
Lynch's nomination became a spectacle not for her credentials or record, but because of Senate leaders' refusal to give her a vote.
h/t NYT
Photo: Reuters/Kevin Lamarque
Loretta Lynch Confirmed as First Black Woman U.S. Attorney General
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April 23, 2015
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Black Women's Activism Will Not be Erased
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by Kimberly Denise Williams
The fierce afro. The defiant gaze. The black power fist raised. The feminine silhouette. Angela Davis’ image is one of the most enduring from the Black Power Movement. Even looking at footage of her today strikes a note of reverence and conjures a sense of righteousness for the viewer. Her anger is apparent.
The fierce afro. The defiant gaze. The black power fist raised. The feminine silhouette. Angela Davis’ image is one of the most enduring from the Black Power Movement. Even looking at footage of her today strikes a note of reverence and conjures a sense of righteousness for the viewer. Her anger is apparent.
Black Women's Activism Will Not be Erased
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April 23, 2015
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Throwing Shade: How Black Women Use Humor on Social Media to Deflect Pain
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It started as I pondered Black Twitter’s response to Starbucks’ #RaceTogether campaign, a well-intended but clumsy foray into America’s racial morass. The poorly conceptualized initiative spawned a hashtag of its own: #NewStarbucksDrinks. It captured the ridiculousness of discussing serious racial issues—police brutality and marginalization—over a cup of coffee. Hilarity ensued.
@brokeymcpoverty Latte My People Go
— Poor Dollaz (@Chinaija) March 17, 2015
Malcolm Xpresso #NewStarbucksDrinks
— jujoffer (@jujoffer) March 17, 2015
"I feared for my safe-Tea" #NewStarbucksDrinks pic.twitter.com/uszYRIwGzP
— Ess (@ScottyLiterati) March 17, 2015
Police Brew-tali-Tea #NewStarbucksDrinks
— Jen P. Otter (@that_crazy_jen) March 17, 2015
It was shade-throwing at its best, which Black Twitter does so well, over and over again. The level of disrespect is funny, original, and unreplicated in other communities. It is also the bitter residue of a people who have mastered the art of dismissing and humiliating others with humor and sarcasm after having been degraded for years ourselves. I’m at a loss when I try to identify any other community that has been able to use a social media diss as well as Black folks do.
Black women are central to this phenomenon. In the age of reality TV, as personalities on these shows jockey for attention and popularity, the most effective method for reaching the top of the heap—second to throwing drinks or punches—is successfully and artfully dismissing one’s peers and competitors. In 2011, in a televised shot-heard-around-the-world at Tami Roman, Evelyn Lozada coined the phrase, “You’re non-motherf*cking-factor, b*tch,” which in turn spawned a T-shirt and then a hashtag, and serves as the model for the TV-to-Twitter diss meme.
Uh oh lol RT @D_Mabry10: Everybody using @EvelynLozada u a non motherfucking factor bitch
— Evelyn Lozada (@EvelynLozada) March 10, 2011
The coldest line from "Basketball Wives" came from @EvelynLozada "You are a non MF factor B" Lmbo! I just love the way she said it!!
— Lakoiya Williams (@75SexySag) March 7, 2011
The popular hashtags have also given way to the ubiquitous meme. One that we see time and time again is the use of the phrase “so-and-so be like” along with a corresponding image, which has proven its sarcastic durability on social media. Perhaps its most effective use was to trash the Wendy Williams’ produced Aaliyah: The Princess of R&B on the Lifetime Network. The questionable casting of actors who were not exactly the doppelgangers of the people they were intended to portray provided ample fodder for the Twitterati with the hashtag #LifetimeBeLike:
Imma buy you a drank: the T-Pain story #LifetimeBeLike #LifetimeBiopics pic.twitter.com/hXeMwS9vNT
— CJ...Oliver? (@OJohnson_21) November 16, 2014
“@OJohnson_21: Imma buy you a drank: the T-Pain story #LifetimeBeLike #LifetimeBiopics pic.twitter.com/O0cUSrCqqs” 😂😂😂
— Dont Shoot (@KushtieMutsie) November 17, 2014
@RickeySmiley these hilarious #LifetimeBeLike memes #AaliyahMovie: http://t.co/RlfTJoUBIE lol pic.twitter.com/1SOS07GYcQ pic.twitter.com/pvXoacBgAV
— Corey D Chambers (@coreydcham) November 17, 2014
In the introduction to Honey, Hush!: An Anthology of African American Women’s Humor, Daryl Dance refers to “the relieving balm of humor.” “Humor for us,” she writes, “has… been a means of surviving as we struggled… We laugh to hide our pain… to shield our shame. We use our humor to speak the unspeakable, to mask the attack… to warn of lines not to be crossed, to strike out at enemies and the hateful acts of friends and family.”
Black women have developed their own unique traditions as well. We call it “sass.” Scholars like Joanne Braxton have identified it as a discursive tool used by black women as a form of verbal self-defense. It was perfected by our foremothers during the period of enslavement as a way to diffuse and redirect tensions with white slave masters and mistresses. Later during the Jim Crow period, black women were left vulnerable because black men—as the primary targets of lynching violence, economic repression, and convict leasing—had trouble protecting themselves, much less their own families. As such, sass became a useful weapon in their arsenal as black women stood in defense of their households, their children, and themselves. This self-defense mechanism, when misunderstood, has unfairly been turned into the racist caricature of the “Sapphire” stereotype—the loud, overbearing, unfeminine and unladylike shrew who dominates her man. In this way black women have been forced not only to fight for their survival, but abused for the mechanisms they’ve employed to achieve.
In addition to being a tool for self-defense, humor has also been a way for African Americans to express themselves creatively, strike back at the system, and cope with the deep pain and shame that came from living lives in the margins of American society. Writing in 1925, Harlem Renaissance novelist Jessie Fauset described the source of black humor, that it rises from the “very woes which beset us.” Bambi Haggins explains this phenomenon in her book, Laughing Mad: The Black Comic Persona in Post-Soul America:
[B]lack comedy is tied inextricably to the African American condition….The function of humor and the therapeutic value of the accompanying laughter, inside safe, communal black spaces....As Langston Hughes notes in the autobiographical prose of The Big Sea, the laughter was, more often than not the weapon used to fight the pain.Now, through the medium of social media, our life-preserving wit—these private comic discourses once hidden within our communities in our own private spaces for fear of the white gaze and the judgement that would follow—are becoming public. Hashtags and memes offer an electronic translation of the eye-roll, the neck roll, the sucking of teeth, the arm akimbo, the raised eyebrow, and all other habits of our signifying culture.
We're laughing out loud, at long last, but sometimes I wonder at whose expense?
As creative and funny as Black Twitter can be, some of the humor is tragicomic. As we proceed toward new levels of viciousness in the pursuit of ratings, likes, and follows, I worry about the conversation spinning out of control in this race toward the bottom. We must be cognizant of the pain this habit of humor is borne of, and be careful about the direction it takes us.
We speak about “dragging” our enemies, literally and figuratively, in an analogy born in the days after Ray Rice battered his then-fiancée, Janay Palmer, in 2014, dragging her unconscious body from a hotel elevator. Janae’s misfortune as a victim of domestic abuse wasn’t enough to prevent us from harvesting a golden nugget of humor from her personal tragedy.
Black Twitter is a two-sided coin. We should be careful that we don’t chuckle our way to oblivion, overseeing the slow deterioration of our culture and our community, and the erosion of our sisterly bonds.
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Tameka Bradley Hobbs, Ph.D., is a historian and author in South Florida. Her forthcoming book, Democracy Abroad, Lynching at Home: Racial Violence in Florida, will be published by the University Press of Florida in August 2015.
Throwing Shade: How Black Women Use Humor on Social Media to Deflect Pain
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The Audacity of Pettiness: Black Intellectuals Need to Find Something Better to Do
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by Malaika Jabali
On Sunday, April 19, renowned professor and author Michael Eric Dyson penned a 9,220-word screed lambasting his former mentor Cornel West on The New Republic. The essay is meant to detail West's decline from the leading Black public intellectual and cultural critic he once was. Instead, the piece tells us more about Dyson and West's long-running feud, with Dyson performing the literary equivalent of taking off his earrings and greasing himself up with Vaseline, readying himself for a fight. Amid unnecessary, personal details that could have remained in the recesses of West’s books and the distant memories of the two men involved, the bulk of Dyson’s argument hinged on West’s diminishing scholarship, prophetic illegitimacy, and, most of all, West’s relationship—or lack thereof—with President Obama.
On Sunday, April 19, renowned professor and author Michael Eric Dyson penned a 9,220-word screed lambasting his former mentor Cornel West on The New Republic. The essay is meant to detail West's decline from the leading Black public intellectual and cultural critic he once was. Instead, the piece tells us more about Dyson and West's long-running feud, with Dyson performing the literary equivalent of taking off his earrings and greasing himself up with Vaseline, readying himself for a fight. Amid unnecessary, personal details that could have remained in the recesses of West’s books and the distant memories of the two men involved, the bulk of Dyson’s argument hinged on West’s diminishing scholarship, prophetic illegitimacy, and, most of all, West’s relationship—or lack thereof—with President Obama.
The Audacity of Pettiness: Black Intellectuals Need to Find Something Better to Do
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April 22, 2015
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When the Glass Slipper Doesn’t Fit: 5 Things I Wish I’d Known About Men in College
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by Tamika D. Hawkins
I recently took my four-year-old daughter to see Cinderella – it was a live action, modern twist on a classic tale of love conquers all, mixed in with a dash of dreams do come true and brought together with the magical touch of a fairy godmother’s wand. Wouldn’t life be grand if this was all it took? If I could dream it and it would come. If I could wish it and it would appear. In my best Laurence Fishburne-inspired School Daze scream – WAKE UP.
When the Glass Slipper Doesn’t Fit: 5 Things I Wish I’d Known About Men in College
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April 22, 2015
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Is Hillary Clinton Here for Black Women?
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by Anna Gibson
With last week's official announcement that she'll be running in the 2016 Presidential Election, Hillary Clinton left very few shocked, but still ruffled quite a few feathers across the political landscape. People have long compared her possible entrance to the White House with her husbands’ presidency, cast doubt upon her campaign based on age, and even compared past legislative decisions to possible future actions.
Is Hillary Clinton Here for Black Women?
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April 22, 2015
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9 Reasons I Loved Growing Up as a Black Girl in the 90s
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by Courtney McCreary
Growing up in the 1990s was awesome. Television was great, the toys were legendary, and the various theme songs and jingles were constantly embedded into my brain.
9 Reasons I Loved Growing Up as a Black Girl in the 90s
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April 21, 2015
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Black Women Don't Want to Befriend Me
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by Kim Lute, Huffington Post
My French Creole features speak to a long history of miscegenation: green eyes, skin the color of a white peach and a sharp Puritan nose to match my thinly drawn Vermillion lips. Still, my blackness is always in question because of my lightness, especially among my darker sisters. Imagine if you will, having an appearance that, if we're honest, harkens an antebellum era in which black women were viewed as a cross between farm equipment and an outlet for other's deviant sexual desires. A time when light and dark black women were separated and pitted against one another in the hopes of forever severing what should have been an unbreakable bond -- creating envy, disdain, self-loathing and unnecessary competition.
Black Women Don't Want to Befriend Me
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April 21, 2015
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The Critical Importance of Suicide Prevention in the Black Community
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by Anna Gibson
On April 8th, 2014, a rising star in the black community, Karyn Washington, died by suicide. According to an article by Buzzfeed, Washington was the originator of the critically acclaimed website, For Brown Girls, and the #DarkSkinRedLipProject, an initiative that began in response to A$AP Rocky’s comments that “dark-skinned women shouldn’t wear red lipstick.” This movement inspired thousands of women and little girls to find pride in the skin they’re in.
On April 8th, 2014, a rising star in the black community, Karyn Washington, died by suicide. According to an article by Buzzfeed, Washington was the originator of the critically acclaimed website, For Brown Girls, and the #DarkSkinRedLipProject, an initiative that began in response to A$AP Rocky’s comments that “dark-skinned women shouldn’t wear red lipstick.” This movement inspired thousands of women and little girls to find pride in the skin they’re in.
The Critical Importance of Suicide Prevention in the Black Community
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April 21, 2015
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Chicago Police Officer Who Killed Rekia Boyd Found Not Guilty
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On Monday, a judge found Dante Servin not guilty on charges of shooting and killing Rekia Boyd.
According to The Chicago Sun Times, Judge Dennis Porter granted the defense a motion for a directed verdict allowing Servin to bypass having to put on a defense.
Servin had been charged with involuntary manslaughter, reckless conduct and reckless discharge of a firearm — but Porter, in issuing his verdict, said Servin’s conduct was “beyond reckless” in the March 2012 shooting of Rekia Boyd. Therefore, “it would be improper to allow the trial to continue given the total failure” to prove recklessness, which was key to all three charges. “The evidence does not support the charges on which the defendant is being tried.”
Porter seemed to know his decision would be controversial.The officer’s decision to discharge his firearm, Porter said, “was an intentional act.”
“This is not a place for emotion,” he said before reading his verdict. “This is a place for reasoned decisions.”
Servin, an off-duty Chicago Police detective, fatally shot Boyd, 22, in March 2012. He also injured her friend Antonio Cross after confronting them and two others during a gathering held at a local park.
Dante Servin - Photo credit: DNAinfo/Erica Demarest
Boyd’s mother, Angela Helton, received a $4.5 million settlement with the city.
Rekia's brother, Martinez Sutton, spoke of the verdict outside the court.
Chicago Police Officer Who Killed Rekia Boyd Found Not Guilty
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April 20, 2015
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Have We Already Forgotten About Garissa?
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by Nneka M. Okona
Hearing about the terrorist attack in Garissa, Kenya at Garissa University on Thursday, April 2nd that left 148 students dead stopped me in my tracks. It’s the kind of news that horrifies, devastates, and leaves one hopeless and wondering why such tragic things have to occur in the first place.
Have We Already Forgotten About Garissa?
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April 20, 2015
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Black Women Deserve Elite Educations Too
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by Nina Daoud
As a 16 year old, first-generation college applicant who also happened to be first-generation American and the eldest of four siblings, the last thing I wanted to do was apply to colleges in faraway places in the middle of nowhere. In my eyes, institutions like Dartmouth, Middlebury, and Swarthmore reeked of privilege and unfamiliarity—and I wanted no part of it. I told my counselor I wanted to apply early decision to SUNY Buffalo, and that I had made my decision.
As a 16 year old, first-generation college applicant who also happened to be first-generation American and the eldest of four siblings, the last thing I wanted to do was apply to colleges in faraway places in the middle of nowhere. In my eyes, institutions like Dartmouth, Middlebury, and Swarthmore reeked of privilege and unfamiliarity—and I wanted no part of it. I told my counselor I wanted to apply early decision to SUNY Buffalo, and that I had made my decision.
Black Women Deserve Elite Educations Too
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April 20, 2015
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The Traumas and Triumphs of Black Exceptionalism in America
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by Jailyn Gladney
The question of whether or not a nation can ever overcome the injustices it has committed is a tricky one. Within the American context, this question cannot be separated from a bloody history of genocide, enslavement, cultural theft, and domestic terrorism that has persisted into a supposedly “post-racial” era despite heavy suppression of its memory. Though many of the legal justifications that formerly upheld white supremacy have been eradicated, the cultural myths and customs that created those legalities are alive and well. In a country that was founded upon freedom for “all men” but conveniently defined my people as something different—something subhuman—it it is only rational to be critical of the suggestion that our scars, our deaths, and our humiliations can ever be healed or atoned for by a nation that would prefer that we forget our past.
The question of whether or not a nation can ever overcome the injustices it has committed is a tricky one. Within the American context, this question cannot be separated from a bloody history of genocide, enslavement, cultural theft, and domestic terrorism that has persisted into a supposedly “post-racial” era despite heavy suppression of its memory. Though many of the legal justifications that formerly upheld white supremacy have been eradicated, the cultural myths and customs that created those legalities are alive and well. In a country that was founded upon freedom for “all men” but conveniently defined my people as something different—something subhuman—it it is only rational to be critical of the suggestion that our scars, our deaths, and our humiliations can ever be healed or atoned for by a nation that would prefer that we forget our past.
The Traumas and Triumphs of Black Exceptionalism in America
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April 19, 2015
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Not Everyone Loves Your Curls: How Hair Stylists Are Managing the Natural Movement
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by Kenya Carlton
With websites, magazines, and entire lines of products dedicated to African-American women with natural hair, is it a wonder that so many people have joined the movement? In a matter of five years, perm sales declined a whopping $54 million dollars in an otherwise booming industry. In 2009, Chris Rock shed light on how the hair care industry makes billions of dollars off of African-American women with his documentary, Good Hair. Rock takes credit for the new development of “curlies," but what have companies who relied on profits from relaxers done to make up for their loss? Major hair care lines have turned their attention away from texturizers and toward products exclusively marketed for natural hair. Whereas hair care and beauty companies have found a way to adjust, hair stylists have taken a financial hit.
“Stylists aren’t trained in beauty school to work with natural hair. There may be a small section of their studies focused on African-American hair, but the instructors go through it really fast,” said hairstylist Monica Taylor. “People choosing natural hair over relaxed hair didn’t affect me much, but if you can’t do natural hair, you took a hit.”
Hair stylists are offered continuing education, but most don’t take the classes necessary to keep up with current trends, which have forced some to lean toward deceitful practices. Strawberri Curls ran an article about stylists sneaking relaxer into clients' deep conditioning treatments. Many of the commenters voiced their outrage over this practice, while others shared their own horror stories of being tricked into an unwanted chemical treatment.
Do we, as naturals, have more to worry about than keeping our curls moisturized? Why would anyone dare do such a thing to a client who has taken the time to grow out her texturized tresses?
“In my opinion, many stylists don’t take the time to do natural hair because time is money and natural hair requires more time and more work. It takes way more torque & heat to blow dry and straighten natural hair than it does to straighten relaxed hair,” said Erica Holder, Director of Operations for Erskine Reeves Barber Academy.
With so much working against stylists with the natural revolution, is it even worth partaking in the lengthy and time-consuming endeavor? According to Holder, there’s plenty of options. “The pros of natural hair are that you have many more styling options: wash-n-go, twist-outs, bantu knots, braids, afros, straight, etc. The cons are that you have to make sure you prepare your hair at night, whether this means braiding it, twisting it, wrapping it, or simply wearing a scarf or a bonnet.”
What should a curly girl do when a whole industry doesn’t support their personal journey? Many websites dedicated to maintaining natural hair suggest “do it yourself” remedies as an alternative to the salon visit. However, when time and inexperience collide, the natural girl is left with few choices at her disposal.
Education of every new endeavor is key. “Naturals still need to come into the salon,” said Monica Taylor, a stylist for over 26 years. “For trims, maintenance, and to see overall how the hair is doing.”
She also gave tips on choosing the best hair stylist for your natural hair: “Any licensed professional should be able to answer all your questions. Ask for pictures of their previous looks, and if they don’t have any natural pictures, reconsider using them.”
Hair for black women is a serious and sensitive topic. With so many options available, the number one rule seems to be: Follow their instincts, and do whatever makes you feel confident and comfortable.
With websites, magazines, and entire lines of products dedicated to African-American women with natural hair, is it a wonder that so many people have joined the movement? In a matter of five years, perm sales declined a whopping $54 million dollars in an otherwise booming industry. In 2009, Chris Rock shed light on how the hair care industry makes billions of dollars off of African-American women with his documentary, Good Hair. Rock takes credit for the new development of “curlies," but what have companies who relied on profits from relaxers done to make up for their loss? Major hair care lines have turned their attention away from texturizers and toward products exclusively marketed for natural hair. Whereas hair care and beauty companies have found a way to adjust, hair stylists have taken a financial hit.
“Stylists aren’t trained in beauty school to work with natural hair. There may be a small section of their studies focused on African-American hair, but the instructors go through it really fast,” said hairstylist Monica Taylor. “People choosing natural hair over relaxed hair didn’t affect me much, but if you can’t do natural hair, you took a hit.”
Hair stylists are offered continuing education, but most don’t take the classes necessary to keep up with current trends, which have forced some to lean toward deceitful practices. Strawberri Curls ran an article about stylists sneaking relaxer into clients' deep conditioning treatments. Many of the commenters voiced their outrage over this practice, while others shared their own horror stories of being tricked into an unwanted chemical treatment.
Do we, as naturals, have more to worry about than keeping our curls moisturized? Why would anyone dare do such a thing to a client who has taken the time to grow out her texturized tresses?
“In my opinion, many stylists don’t take the time to do natural hair because time is money and natural hair requires more time and more work. It takes way more torque & heat to blow dry and straighten natural hair than it does to straighten relaxed hair,” said Erica Holder, Director of Operations for Erskine Reeves Barber Academy.
With so much working against stylists with the natural revolution, is it even worth partaking in the lengthy and time-consuming endeavor? According to Holder, there’s plenty of options. “The pros of natural hair are that you have many more styling options: wash-n-go, twist-outs, bantu knots, braids, afros, straight, etc. The cons are that you have to make sure you prepare your hair at night, whether this means braiding it, twisting it, wrapping it, or simply wearing a scarf or a bonnet.”
What should a curly girl do when a whole industry doesn’t support their personal journey? Many websites dedicated to maintaining natural hair suggest “do it yourself” remedies as an alternative to the salon visit. However, when time and inexperience collide, the natural girl is left with few choices at her disposal.
Education of every new endeavor is key. “Naturals still need to come into the salon,” said Monica Taylor, a stylist for over 26 years. “For trims, maintenance, and to see overall how the hair is doing.”
She also gave tips on choosing the best hair stylist for your natural hair: “Any licensed professional should be able to answer all your questions. Ask for pictures of their previous looks, and if they don’t have any natural pictures, reconsider using them.”
Hair for black women is a serious and sensitive topic. With so many options available, the number one rule seems to be: Follow their instincts, and do whatever makes you feel confident and comfortable.
Photo: Shutterstock
Kenya Carlton is a regular contributor to For Harriet.
Not Everyone Loves Your Curls: How Hair Stylists Are Managing the Natural Movement
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April 18, 2015
Rating: 5
9 Black Women Game-Changers in the STEM Fields
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by Juhanna Rogers
Dominant historical accounts say that Europeans brought Africans to the New World as slaves. However, history often leaves out that these “slaves” brought with them the knowledge they had from their previous lives. It’s no secret that Africans had pioneered advancements in agriculture, chemistry, mathematics, and engineering hundreds of years before being brought to the Americas. And we used these skills to help build new nations.
Today, there is a stereotype that Black children—specifically Black girls—are unable to excel in areas like mathematics and science, because the concepts are too difficult. This could not be further from the truth.
I am not a scientist, nor was I ever really interested in science. However, I have met a number of mentors and colleagues during my time in the academy who are leaders within the sciences, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) fields. I wonder if I had met them earlier in my life, maybe I would have had a greater interest. Nonetheless, I think it is important now as an educator that I expose my students to Black women who are scientists, engineers, mathematicians, and leaders within these and other related fields.
Here are nine Black women who have or who currently are changing the world of STEM and serve as motivation for other Black and Brown girls to pursue their interests in the same fields.
Dr. Mae Jemison was born in Alabama and raised in Chicago. Growing up, her parents made her spend many hours in the library reading about the sciences, which sparked her passion for STEM. The history-maker attended Stanford University, where she earned a degree in chemical engineering. Jemison would then go on to earn a medical degree from Cornell University. She worked as a physician in California for a few years after finishing medical school, before joining the Peace Corps to serve as a researcher and physician in Liberia and Sierra Leone. After returning to the United States, she decided to apply to NASA for its astronaut training program in 1987. In 1992, Mae Jemison became the first African-American woman to ever go to space with the Endeavour mission.
Dr. Alexa Canady grew up in Michigan. Her father was a dentist and her mother an educator. Dr. Canady’s interest in science grew more intense after she participated in a pre-college program at the University of Michigan. She later went on to earn a degree in zoology and attended medical school at the University of Michigan. In 1980, she became the first African-American neurosurgeon and dedicated her career to pediatric patients in Pennsylvania, Minnesota, and Michigan. In 1987, she became Chief of Neurosurgery at the Michigan’s Children Hospital until she retired in 2001. Dr. Canady returned to practice medicine part-time after learning her new community in Florida did not have a practicing African-American surgeon in pediatrics.
Dr. Marie Daly was born in 1921 to a family who was dedicated to her education. After her father had to leave Cornell University due to the steep tuition, he was determined to make sure his daughter was a success. Daly studied at Queens College and New York University, before becoming the first African-American to earn a doctorate degree in chemistry (from Columbia University). As a graduate student at Columbia, Daly studied under Dr. Mary L. Caldwell. Afterwards she continued to conduct research and teach at universities throughout New York City. Dr. Daly spent many years as faculty at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine at Yeshiva University. As a faculty member and researcher, she championed the need to support students of color interested in pursuing physics and chemistry at Queens College by establishing a scholarship fund in memory of her father.
In 1949, Dr. Marjorie Browne was the third African-American woman to earn a Ph.D. in mathematics. During her time at the University of Michigan, she was a teaching assistant in her field, which was also a major accomplishment in the early 1940s. As a scholar, Dr. Browne received numerous prestigious awards and grants that helped to advance her research—including a grant from the Ford Foundation and funding from technology giant IBM. With the IBM funds, she became one of the first scientists to set up an electronic computer lab at a historically Black college in 1960—at what was then known North Carolina College (or North Carolina A&T University today).
Norma Sklarek was born in Harlem, New York and was a graduate of Columbia University. Ms. Sklarek was the first African-American woman to earn an architect’s license in the state of New York. Not only did she build a lasting career in a field dominated by White men, but she was also an advocate for more women in the field. Later in her career, she started her own all-women architect firm. Norma Sklarek’s spirit and work left an imprint on the world as her work can still be seen nationally and internationally. For example, two of her most well-known projects are the American Embassy in Tokyo and Fox Plaza in San Francisco.
Aprille Ericsson-Jackson is a native of Brooklyn, New York. She attended Massachusetts Institute of Technology before attending graduate school at Howard University. She was the first African-American woman to earn a Ph.D. in Mechanical Engineering from Howard University and the first African-American woman to receive a Ph.D. in Engineering at NASA's Goddard Space Flight Center. As she continues her career at NASA, Dr. Ericsson-Jackson is also committed to educating and inspiring more African-American students to pursue careers in STEM.
Dr. Johnson is the first African-American woman to graduate with a doctorate in oceanography from Texas A&M University. Dr. Johnson has taught at several universities across the country and currently serves as the Executive Director of the Institute for Broadening Participation and as the Assistant Vice Provost for Faculty Recruitment within the Division of Faculty Affairs at the University of Texas in Arlington. In January 2010, she received a Presidential Award for Excellence in Science, Mathematics, and Engineering Mentoring at the White House, in recognition of her professional achievements and diversity-related activities.
Lisette Titre is a video game designer and education curriculum consultant with over 13 years of experience. Lisette graduated magna cum laude from Miami International University for Art and Design with a degree in computer animation. As a consultant for gaming companies she has left her mark on EA Sports and other major companies. Lisette has graced the cover of Black Enterprise magazine due to her entrepreneurial efforts. Recently, she partnered with Soledad O’Brien to encourage more young girls to consider education and jobs in STEM. Lisette is also a member of Blacks in Gaming, which seeks to get more African-Americans involved in the game design world.
Dr. Aletha Maybank is a young, highly respected physician. Her medical interests and areas of expertise include preventive medicine; nutrition and fitness; maternal and child health; cancer; HIV/AIDS; community health; and health inequities. Dr. Maybank focuses on creatively using her medical degree to make changes in the quality of healthcare nationally and internationally; therefore, instead of practicing in a hospital, she is making strides in the political arena. Dr. Maybank launched a campaign to bring the faces of real life African-American doctors to the popular children’s animated series, Doc McStuffins, in order to inspire young Black girls to pursue medical professions. Dr. Maybank also serves as Assistant Commissioner of Health for the New York City Department of Health.
Dominant historical accounts say that Europeans brought Africans to the New World as slaves. However, history often leaves out that these “slaves” brought with them the knowledge they had from their previous lives. It’s no secret that Africans had pioneered advancements in agriculture, chemistry, mathematics, and engineering hundreds of years before being brought to the Americas. And we used these skills to help build new nations.
Today, there is a stereotype that Black children—specifically Black girls—are unable to excel in areas like mathematics and science, because the concepts are too difficult. This could not be further from the truth.
I am not a scientist, nor was I ever really interested in science. However, I have met a number of mentors and colleagues during my time in the academy who are leaders within the sciences, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) fields. I wonder if I had met them earlier in my life, maybe I would have had a greater interest. Nonetheless, I think it is important now as an educator that I expose my students to Black women who are scientists, engineers, mathematicians, and leaders within these and other related fields.
Here are nine Black women who have or who currently are changing the world of STEM and serve as motivation for other Black and Brown girls to pursue their interests in the same fields.
Mae C. Jemison, M.D.
Alexa Canady, M.D.
Dr. Alexa Canady grew up in Michigan. Her father was a dentist and her mother an educator. Dr. Canady’s interest in science grew more intense after she participated in a pre-college program at the University of Michigan. She later went on to earn a degree in zoology and attended medical school at the University of Michigan. In 1980, she became the first African-American neurosurgeon and dedicated her career to pediatric patients in Pennsylvania, Minnesota, and Michigan. In 1987, she became Chief of Neurosurgery at the Michigan’s Children Hospital until she retired in 2001. Dr. Canady returned to practice medicine part-time after learning her new community in Florida did not have a practicing African-American surgeon in pediatrics.
Marie M. Daly, Ph.D.
Majorie Lee Browne, Ph.D.
Norma Sklarek
Norma Sklarek was born in Harlem, New York and was a graduate of Columbia University. Ms. Sklarek was the first African-American woman to earn an architect’s license in the state of New York. Not only did she build a lasting career in a field dominated by White men, but she was also an advocate for more women in the field. Later in her career, she started her own all-women architect firm. Norma Sklarek’s spirit and work left an imprint on the world as her work can still be seen nationally and internationally. For example, two of her most well-known projects are the American Embassy in Tokyo and Fox Plaza in San Francisco.
Aprille J. Ericsson-Jackson, Ph.D.
Aprille Ericsson-Jackson is a native of Brooklyn, New York. She attended Massachusetts Institute of Technology before attending graduate school at Howard University. She was the first African-American woman to earn a Ph.D. in Mechanical Engineering from Howard University and the first African-American woman to receive a Ph.D. in Engineering at NASA's Goddard Space Flight Center. As she continues her career at NASA, Dr. Ericsson-Jackson is also committed to educating and inspiring more African-American students to pursue careers in STEM.
Ashanti Johnson, Ph.D.
Dr. Johnson is the first African-American woman to graduate with a doctorate in oceanography from Texas A&M University. Dr. Johnson has taught at several universities across the country and currently serves as the Executive Director of the Institute for Broadening Participation and as the Assistant Vice Provost for Faculty Recruitment within the Division of Faculty Affairs at the University of Texas in Arlington. In January 2010, she received a Presidential Award for Excellence in Science, Mathematics, and Engineering Mentoring at the White House, in recognition of her professional achievements and diversity-related activities.
Lisette Titre
Lisette Titre is a video game designer and education curriculum consultant with over 13 years of experience. Lisette graduated magna cum laude from Miami International University for Art and Design with a degree in computer animation. As a consultant for gaming companies she has left her mark on EA Sports and other major companies. Lisette has graced the cover of Black Enterprise magazine due to her entrepreneurial efforts. Recently, she partnered with Soledad O’Brien to encourage more young girls to consider education and jobs in STEM. Lisette is also a member of Blacks in Gaming, which seeks to get more African-Americans involved in the game design world.
Aletha Maybank, M.D.
Dr. Aletha Maybank is a young, highly respected physician. Her medical interests and areas of expertise include preventive medicine; nutrition and fitness; maternal and child health; cancer; HIV/AIDS; community health; and health inequities. Dr. Maybank focuses on creatively using her medical degree to make changes in the quality of healthcare nationally and internationally; therefore, instead of practicing in a hospital, she is making strides in the political arena. Dr. Maybank launched a campaign to bring the faces of real life African-American doctors to the popular children’s animated series, Doc McStuffins, in order to inspire young Black girls to pursue medical professions. Dr. Maybank also serves as Assistant Commissioner of Health for the New York City Department of Health.
Juhanna Rogers is a regular contributor to For Harriet.
9 Black Women Game-Changers in the STEM Fields
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April 17, 2015
Rating: 5
Why I Won’t Relocate Even Though I Love Him
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The engine roared on the airplane. In the four years that I have been maintaining a bicoastal relationship with my lover, I have wracked up enough frequent flyer miles to have gold status and get upgraded to first class on most flights. Sitting in first class sipping a glass of red wine, I reflected on our last conversation before my departure. “Move to Seattle. Come and be with me,” my lover pleaded. I saw the tears well up in his eyes as we stood curbside at SeaTac airport. I knew that I wanted to be with him, but there was something that didn’t feel quite right.
Why I Won’t Relocate Even Though I Love Him
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April 17, 2015
Rating: 5
We Need to Stop Sh*tting on Women Whose First Priorities Are Not Our Own
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by Jenn M. Jackson
“Don’t marry her. She doesn’t want to work.”
I remember my then fiancé’s barber warning him about me when I mentioned potentially staying home during our marriage. Apparently, he didn’t approve. But he wasn’t the only one.
We Need to Stop Sh*tting on Women Whose First Priorities Are Not Our Own
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April 16, 2015
Rating: 5
Forgive Yourself for the Things You Couldn't Control
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by C. Imani Williams
Trigger warning: Graphic depictions of sexual violence
As women, we all have a little girl inside of us who deserves to be heard and honored. My inner child deserves to know that the "grown-up" me loved her (and still does), even though I didn't always show it.
Growing up, I was well loved and cared for by my parents. However, there were some scary and “WTF?!” moments as well. My father and "Cool Cat" was the best… except when he was dealing with a manic or depressive episode due to what I now understand was bipolar disorder.
For all the times I was scared, lonely, and confused as a little girl, I offer my younger self a letter of forgiveness. This writing exercise is deeply healing. It is cleansing. It encourages self-forgiveness and provides the opportunity for personal growth. Anyone can do it, so I invite you to try for yourself after reading the following letter to my “tween” self.
* * *
Dear Middle-School Self,
Girl, you have a lot going on. I see you, listening and trying to figure out what is going to become of our family. Mommy is about the business and needs your help. I know it’s crazy as heck, them making you go to your Daddy’s father’s funeral. I get that it is still hard for you to connect the endearing term of “grandfather” to the man who molested you.
You changed during the trip from Detroit to Chattanooga, Tennessee, to bury him. Ten hours of hearing him being revered took a toll on you. I ached with pain watching you try to figure out why he wasn't locked away for touching you—fingering you with his nasty touch and peculiar odor. You were just five years old. I watched you struggle with the decision to tell Mommy and Daddy. I know it was hard, and I was so proud of you. I’m sorry I wasn’t able to give better reassurance that you’d be okay, and that you were still special and very much loved.
I saw you at 12, struggling when Daddy had the first breakdown. He was hardly sleeping and Mommy had already given you a warning to keep quiet. He hadn't slept in three days. You didn't know then, that Mommy wasn't sure what would happen when he woke up. Would he be sad or happy?
That's what confused you most about Daddy getting sick. He didn't have aches and pains like people in the hospital, or even like Mr. Webster, who had all kinds of physical things wrong. Like Mr. Webster, Daddy also took a lot of pills. His were to keep him from getting sick inside his head. He wasn’t supposed to drink with them and he didn’t… usually. But holidays and barbeques were different. Grown-ups drink. And Daddy did too on those occasions, even though alcohol and lithium don't mix.
For a long time, you hated the word “depressed”. Nobody would talk about it. Mommy didn’t, because she had to stay strong and stand in for Daddy. You didn't know she had already had her fill of mental illness with her eldest sister. Sweet as pie, Auntie was diagnosed with schizophrenia before you were born, and would spend most of her adult life in halfway and three-quarter houses.
But Auntie also spent time with us. You looked forward to her visits. She could press a head, and never burned your ear—not even once. Her spirit was sweet. She didn't seem sick; just quiet. Auntie and Daddy (her brother-in-law) got on fabulously, even after the divorce.
Watching Auntie and Daddy was when you first understood that this illness was on both sides of the family and hit two generations back-to-back.
I remember that one time when you were confused. Daddy got sick and you helped Mommy pack suitcases. You left for almost three weeks. She wanted to make sure you would be safe while Daddy was in a manic episode. He was drinking a lot and not sleeping, driving with the music up, spending money like water, and messing around with a girlfriend. (Yeah, we both know the last two was probably what put a wrap on our parents’ marriage.)
Staying with friends and relatives during the manic part of Daddy's sickness was always hard. People were always nice though. And Mommy being there, made it better. You still worried about Daddy, though. Was he safe? Was he okay? Had he taken someone he just met at the all-night diner back to our house? Had he gone home with this “new friend”, who was still really just a stranger?
Is he safe? Is he safe? Is he safe? Is he?
Those long drives out Seven Mile to Northville Hospital or down Woodward to Lafayette Clinic were sad. You'd sit next to Mommy as she drove, with the radio low on 1440 AM WCHB and her cigarette glowing. You were en route to the mental hospital. I know it seemed like the scariest place on earth: the ugly building, the ugly tiles on the institution floor, the nurses who never smiled. All those patients that shuffled tiredly, talking nonsensical rhymes or muttering to themselves. The putrid smell of ammonia and piss hitting you in the face as soon as you walked through the door.
The only good parts were seeing Daddy and watching him bite into the foot-long chili dogs you would pick up on the way. Sitting in the hospital courtyard and watching Daddy tear into those foot-longs after he spread mustard on yours wasn't too bad, huh?
By the time you were 12 years old, Mommy and Daddy divorced. Daddy was fine again and things were back to normal. Except Daddy moved a short ride away.
I watched you, little “fast” girl at 13, when you decided to ask Daddy to come over so you could talk to him and Mommy about birth control. I yelled, “Slow down, little mama!” But you turned up the radio, grabbed your Bonnie Bell Lip Smacker gloss and tuned me out. I needn't have worried; I knew that one wasn't going to fly.
You waited a year before having sex, but didn't get birth control until a year later. I've always had a problem with that. So 14 and 15 were rough because you did it all your way. I should have pressed harder for you to slow your roll, and I'm sorry for that.
You put yourself at risk far too often for my comfort, but I'm so glad the angels were looking out. When Mommy shared with our grown-up self that a neighbor boy had warned her a “train ride” had been scheduled for you, she went and found you. Thank God. I honestly don't know how you would have recovered from that.
You were not listening to anyone. You were mad at the world and understandably so. Molestation causes confusion. Sexual feelings emerge too soon. You were not prepared emotionally for what your body was craving. And a gang rape would have been more than you had bargained for. That neighbor boy may have saved your life.
You have always had the ancestors looking over you. Believe that.
I sensed from you the feelings of not being good enough, of being damaged, of not being loveable. I watched you give yourself away in the most intimate ways to people who did not deserve your gifts. I wanted to scream, “Hey, stop! Please stop!”
Your hurt became my hurt as an adult. Thankfully, I've learned to deal with the indigo by writing about my feelings instead of locking them away. Sister-friends and support groups help me see things through a variety of lenses. People have shared that our stories are similar in nature. I have found sisters to bond with, heal with, and to help me learn to re-think the behavior not suited for our highest good. We're sassy, soulful black women who find ways to celebrate our unique gifts. We know the stuff that goes down in our community and we're working to be our best selves, so that our communities are healthier.
Dear Self, we are okay. I love you.
Always,
Imani
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Forgive Yourself for the Things You Couldn't Control
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April 16, 2015
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We Don't Need Anymore Slut-Shaming Music
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by Brittany Dawson
Tink’s “Ratchet Commandments” has quickly become the latest prescribed respectability anthem for women. Ah, yes, I’m sure a group of New Blacks are nodding their heads in approval.
We Don't Need Anymore Slut-Shaming Music
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April 15, 2015
Rating: 5
Confessions of a Black Woman Who No Longer Works in the STEM Fields
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by Jenn M. Jackson
I am a Black woman who is no longer in the STEM fields, but it isn’t for the reasons you may be thinking.
Growing up, I frequently disassembled and reassembled electronics around the house and while my mother was frustrated at first, she soon relented. My interest in the inner workings of household gadgets were a part of my larger interest in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM). Though the tinkering I did at home prepared me for the education I would later receive in a top-notch engineering program, there just wasn’t anything out there to prepare me for the racism and isolation I would feel during college and in my STEM career. But it wasn’t just the discrimination on-the-job that convinced me to move out of STEM fields and into the social sciences. I chose to become an ex Black woman in STEM because the privilege my job granted left me feeling complicit in larger systems of racial exclusion in the United States.
Confessions of a Black Woman Who No Longer Works in the STEM Fields
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April 15, 2015
Rating: 5
Rhodes Must Fall: The End of Negotiating Black Pain in Post-Apartheid South Africa
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At an emotionally charged forum debating whether the statute honouring Cecil John Rhodes at the University of Cape Town (UCT) should be removed, a young Black woman took the floor to say something that resonated with the many young Black South Africans seated in the room and throughout the country: the time for negotiating Black pain is over. Transformation is now.
Rhodes Must Fall: The End of Negotiating Black Pain in Post-Apartheid South Africa
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April 14, 2015
Rating: 5
I Fear for Our Black Men
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by Ifie Natasha Brandon
I’ve always loved black men. The way they walk, their style, the culture they represent, and the beauty reflected through their different hues of brown. I’ve always believed in them. I believe they are more intellectual and creative than society wants to portray them as. I believe their potential for success far outweighs the presumption that they are "dangerous" or "deadbeats."
I Fear for Our Black Men
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April 14, 2015
Rating: 5
Changing the Beauty Standard: Why I'm Here for the #ImNoAngel Campaign
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by Felice León
It isn’t easy being a “big girl”. Rubbing thighs, finding properly fitted clothing without looking frumpy, and getting in and out of tight spaces are all in a day’s work. (Shall we call these #BigGirlProblems?)
It isn’t easy being a “big girl”. Rubbing thighs, finding properly fitted clothing without looking frumpy, and getting in and out of tight spaces are all in a day’s work. (Shall we call these #BigGirlProblems?)
Changing the Beauty Standard: Why I'm Here for the #ImNoAngel Campaign
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April 13, 2015
Rating: 5
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