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How to Keep Your Spiritual Cool at Work4/16/2014
We all know the scenario. Some of us could even write the script. Just the other day, someone at work assumed you didn’t know something, c...
Keeping your spiritual cool is all about you. It’s about understanding that you walk in light, that you give and are deserving of love, and that your spirit is forever open to the blessings the universe is sending your way. Keeping your spiritual cool is about prosperity, and who doesn’t want to be prosperous? It’s very possible that others, who don’t walk in light and haven’t learned to give and receive love need better models of what walking in light and existing through love looks like.
Just the other day a Facebook friend posted on their wall asking what others do to deal with an annoying co-worker. Folks responded with all types of strategies ranging from playing tit for tat by doing annoying things right back to them and treating them the way they treat others. Therein lies the problem. We’ve mistakenly misinterpreted the old adage, do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
You see, many of us have been taught that we should treat others the way we want to be treated - kindly and respectfully, being helpful, considerate and understanding, and supportive to name a few. And it doesn’t mean that we should be nice to others in the hopes that they should return the favor, but that we simply be nice because it’s in good character. But it doesn’t quite work in reverse. We treat others how we want to be treated, not how they treat us.
So what do you do when the treatment you receive at work is less than what you would tolerate outside of work?
You might be fortunate enough to have your own office where you can have a small tree or water fountain and play low relaxation music when you’re not meeting with a client. Maybe you’re at a desk in a cubicle where you can position an image of the natural environment that brings you peace and joy. If you’re on your feet and interacting with people all day, keep some affirmations in the front of your mind to call on during those moments that you need them the most. No matter what your work situation is like, follow these helpful tips for keeping your spiritual cool at work:
- Show compassion - someone could be having a bad day and not realize they’re being rude.
- Don’t take it personally - remember that whatever energy someone is throwing out into the universe is more about them than it is about you, so don’t take it personally.
- Choose wisely - sometimes we feel like we need to respond to whatever others are saying, because we know we’re right and they’re wrong. In the end, is it worth it? Choose your battles wisely. It’s just work, not your lifetime relationship.
- Use your breaks - what are you doing on the job to recharge your battery while you’re there? Not facebook or getting on the phone; that’s expending energy. What are you doing for you?
- Find kindred spirits - your kindred spirits are those who help you make it through the day. They could be in your department, on your floor or may even work a slightly different shift. Even just a few seconds to share a supportive glance can make all the difference in getting through a work day that tries our nerves.
- So when those microaggressions come flying your way at 85 mph, just remember that cool heads lead us down cool paths.
Melissa is an intuitive spiritual coach and tarot reader. She helps her clients overcome obstacles that they think are insurmountable by encouraging their spiritual development. Learn more about her here: www.MelissaMickey.com/7meditation.html